Recently, I have been getting my fair share of “unavailable” or as they call it “busy” men. My most recent was hip hop Larry the financial advisor (Hip Hop Larry) Larry and I shared 5 wonderful dates together, but it took us 4 months to accomplish this even though Larry lives exactly 10 mins from me. Each date lasted no less than 9 hours, and each one better than the one before. No matter how “perfect” the date however, he never followed up with calls or texts until another three weeks had gone by. I noticed the absurd behavior early on and made mention, to which I received nothing really substantial. The last story I got was actually quite funny. Larry said, “imagine me as the Ryan Gosling character in the Notebook, I am at war building my company, and I will eventually build you a house and we can be together.” To this I replied, do you realize that she got married to another guy in the movie. Larry replies, “yes, but she always wanted her first love.” LOL. To this I said, well, sadly for you, I’m not out looking for a second husband, so this ends now. With that I told Larry I no longer wished to see him.
It has been about 2 weeks since that. In that period, he asked me out once and I declined. Yesterday I received a phone call. What’s up Larry, I said, in my, “could careless voice.” I miss your face, smile, blah blah. To this I said, "OK." He then said, “when can I see you, I want to make you dinner, it will be great.” To this I replied, it’s always been great, but this every three week bullshit is a waste of my passion and my emotions and I refuse to participate. To this he said, well, you know I’m busy with the company, what if I commit to at least once a week. To this I said, that’s a good start, I’ll think about it and get back to you. It’s funny what happens when you are over it, completely. Why do men come back when it’s late and why do they want to be treated poorly before they respond appropriately? I currently have yet another busy Larry that I have on my plate, this one from the mid-west and his days are numbered, as once again, he is playing the I’m busy card. It appears you must either date a guy with nothing going on and ample time, or deal with the "I'm busy." There must be a middle ground. Doing an experiment on this new guy, plan to give him the same, make time or step aside line, will report on the findings.